Conflicts are an inevitable part of life. Since we are made different, because we have different beliefs, perceptions distinctive and dissimilar ways to analyze situations and solve problems. All of this leads to conflicts of various magnitudes. Therefore, should we have on our wealth of tools for improved human relations some conflict resolution skills.
1. Distinguish facts from assumptions. We believe that their own vision of the world is correct, and the only valid.
recognizes that only got a piece of the truth. At the time of conflict, is to abstract what happens, what is your view of what happened, and what could be the vision of the other person. This helps get rid of your attachment to your "Dueñez" from your personal perspective. When we disagree with someone, we produce not only about what happened, but also make judgments about the situation and the other person's feelings and emotions that causes us and version that does it all this. Take charge of your emotions and feelings. There is another person that t feel a certain way. The other person did what he did. You decide how to react. You gave the situation a meaning of its own, and you've reached your own conclusions. Examines whether these represent a similar pattern in your life.
2. REASONS AND DISTINGUISHING EMOCIONESComúnmente assume we know what the other person wants us to.
The only thing we can really see is the behavior, or behavior of another person. Recognizes that perhaps would not disrespect (or hurt, or ignore, or control you.) It also recognizes that you are the perpetrator, but your reason was for other innocent That does not deny the emotions that have caused the other.
3. MAKING REQUESTS COMPLAINTS Imagine that any complaint (yours or someone else) is really a request to attend. When we are in situations we do not like and feel diminished our position, we have to complain and blame. The next time you're surprised complaining, stop and ask "If at this point anything would be different, and I want it to be, what would it be?" and then ask for it! Make the call on who has the power to give you that you need. Continue complaining solves nothing in your life, you just bitter, and then, perhaps unconsciously, try to embitter others.
4. WHICH PART OF ESTÁSAlgunas times, you know exactly what you mean, only that the words get stuck and get stuck in your throat.
There is, perhaps, a clear message to deliver, more uncertainties to give it loud and clear, fearing the possible reaction of someone who listens. At such times, it starts where you left off. You can restart the dialogue with something like "I'd like to say something, only I'm afraid ... or you ...." You will be surprised of the impact that sharing your vulnerability because the other person's receptivity. And you'll be surprised how easy this message will now have to deliver.
5) BECOME RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR CONTRIBUTION, YOUR PAPER OR YOUR INFLUENCE. Recognize that you have something to do with the problem to continue. Generally, this is difficult to aceptar.es much easier to blame someone for your problems. It is the syndrome of "Was that idiot", "If only I had ...." The fact is that there does NOT exist. So grab the bull by the horns, YA.
6) BECOME A BSEQUIO forgive yourself and forgive is not to condone or even accept.
forgive someone deep in your heart only increases your agony. Maintain that state when you feel hurt or offended not fix anything. It is necessary to take the Next step and let go of the event or incident. Just let go of the pain, relieved.
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